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So I’ve spent the past few days reminiscing about the past. Now that’s not an unusual activity for me. I spend most of my time in a dream land! But these pensive moments led me to think about what was my favourite first date. This came up number one.

I was 17 and had met a 22 year old guy at a nightclub called Southsides. Southsides was one of those places where you would pay a tenner or fifteen quid to get in. For that you could drink as many watered down drinks as you wanted and eat your fill from the manky buffet of curled up sandwiches and cocktail sausages while dancing the night away to cheesy tunes.

So this guy and I had spent half the night chatting on the swinging love seat (seriously!) and ended up exchanging numbers. Mobile phones had recently hit the market hard and I had managed to get my hands on a gigantic M300! (Who had one? Show your age!).

So after speaking for hours every night for a week, we finally arranged to meet on my next day off work. (Those were the days where you could land a half decent job straight out of school).

I actually remember it was a Thursday and we had arranged to meet at my local drive-thru McDonalds at 11am. How I remember all of this when I can’t even remember my age these days I don’t know! So we had a coffee and he then said that we’re going South of the river. So we get to his white BMW and I’m being whisked off by this ‘Sarf Lahndan’ wide boy!

First he took me to a bar for a few drinks, it was just after midday by this time and these were the days where pubs didn’t bother ask for ID! Next, we’re back in the Beemer and on our way to a Portuguese restaurant for a 5 hour lunch. So much food, so much wine and I met his dad!

We were having the best time together and neither of us wanted the date to end so he then took me to the cinema where we were kept on the edge of our seats watching Geena Davis and Samuel L Jackson in The Long Kiss Goodnight.

By the time the film ended, we had been on our date for over 12 hours. Still not wanting the day, or night by this time to end we went back to his, and the rest as they say is history! Haha!

Details I hear you say? Ok! But only a few. I was taken to a lovely house and placed on a white sheepskin rug in front of an open fireplace. This man was a pro at this dating game!

Anyway, we fell asleep at probably 4 in the morning and I was supposed to be at work 5 hours later. Not only was I supposed to be at work in the morning but my parents had no idea where I was! Back then, they didn’t have a house phone so I hadn’t been able to call them to let them know I was having the best time of my life EVER and was not coming back for the foreseeable future!

I managed to wake up at around 8.30 the next morning and call in sick to work, pretending to be ill. That was the first ever ‘sex day’ I pulled (sick day…get it! Come on I’m not the only one!). My older sister also worked for the same company as me so I managed to get hold of her in her department and tell her that I’d phoned in sick and not to tell our mum! I also said that I would meet her after work.

Well the guy and I spent another fantastic day together and at 6.30pm we drove all the way to Sloane Square to pick my sister up from work and drop her home. We just wanted to spend every minute we could together. It was unreal.

He met my sister’s boyfriend and they fast became good friends. It then got to the point where I could no longer put it off. I had to go home. I knew I was about to be in serious trouble!

He dropped me home. My dad didn’t really say anything but my mum was so angry with me. It was probably the first time she’d actually ever been angry with me. I knew I was totally in the wrong for staying out for two days and the worry I must’ve put her through was awful. Now as a parent I understand that fear and worry even more.

The end result was that my mum grounded me! 17 years old with a full time job and I was grounded! The guys response was peels of laughter that he was 22 and and his girlfriend was grounded. Thinking about it, it was quite funny!

So the next day he decided to come round to my house and meet my parents. They absolutely loved him, he was such a charmer and I was no longer grounded!

As naughty as I was I do not regret going out on a 48 hour date. Nobody’s been able to beat it since and how many of us out there actually do throw caution to the wind and live life in the moment?

Would I do it again? Damn straight I would! I’m just waiting for the right man came along!

A friend of mine is back in the dating game. She is not after anything too serious so decided to sign up with a….. hmmm …. let’s call it a ‘casual’ online dating site.

Within the first 48 hours she was inundated with requests from at least 200 men. The requests ranged from the pretty normal exchange of email addresses or numbers, to get to know each other and meet for a date, to outrageous requests which are quite frankly, full on porn!

So she managed to whittle it down to four men whose profiles she liked and who she felt she clicked with and the next thing she knew she was meeting for coffee with one of the guys.

Their email exchange had been very pleasant and filth free so she was quite looking forward to meeting with him.

As soon as she met with him she knew straight away she didn’t like him. Not that he was not a nice enough person but she said there was just no connection. Furthermore, when she discovered he was the same star sign as her ex-partner she totally closed herself off to the idea! I know it seems crazy to base your decision on a star sign but I’m practically as crazy as her so see where she is coming from!

So this guy asks her what site she is on. She obviously doesn’t know what he’s going on about as she had only signed up on one site. He then tells her that there are about 12 ‘dating’ websites affiliated with each other so when you sign up for one your details get put on the other sites. (This is why terms and conditions need to be read people!) Next thing you know he’s reeling off a load of websites, Local S**gs, F**k Buddy, she said she doesn’t know what other sites he mentioned because by this time she was hyperventilating!

She was mortified, and told the guy so. He did say he thought she hadn’t done this before, then added that he went back onto the site he’s on earlier in the day (F**k Buddy) , and right in the middle, standing out from all the blondes, her profile was in the most viewed for the week!

So on the way home she’s on the phone to me, distressed while I roar with unbridled mirth! The first thing she planned on doing was taking her profile off the site.

Now she’s worried her ex will go onto the site, as he loves a Local S**g, and see her on there! And knowing him he’ll tell her parents. Rather than anyone questioning him for checking out Local S**gs, they’ll all be having a go at her! Hahahaha!

You know when you’re going through a period in your life when you’re a bit bored, and to be honest, it feels like there’s a bit of a drought going on, what do you do? Give online dating a shot of course!

Please tell me I’m not the only one out there who makes crazy, impulsive, random decisions with their life?

I don’t know what I was thinking. The drought hadn’t even been that long. At most a couple of weeks. Alright, I’ll hold my hands up! I just wanted to try something new! There, my admission is on the table, should I even continue?

So that urge to do something ridiculously impulsive, which I have quite often, (yesterday I had the urge to open a free school. I’ll have it up and running in a year ya’ know!), took hold of me, and next thing I know I’ve signed up for this online dating website, have a profile with the best picture I could find and I’m having to block a load of weirdos! Actually, that’s a bit harsh, surprisingly the weirdo men were few and far between.

What I loved about this online dating adventure was that I got to choose exactly what I was looking for. So my criteria was a non religious man in his thirties, (that would be different now, as you know from my previous posts I’m only after the toy boy!) and I wasn’t fussed about looks, (obviously not so bad that I have to put a paper bag over his head!). I made it clear that if they were looking for a partner to have kids with they were barking up the wrong tree. Been there, done that, and have more than one t-shirt thank you very much.

So I managed to sift through all of the losers thinking I had mug written across my head and actually started chatting to some guys who seemed as ‘normal’ as me and had profiles that weren’t a load of cods wallop.

Low and behold, I then came across a guy who lived quite local to me, same age range, he had a kid and worked in a similar field to me. He wanted to exchange numbers, so we did! He had a delicious French accent. We spoke (mainly me!) for an hour so I figured it must be real because it would be pretty hard to pull off a fake accent for that long! At the end of our chat and all the ‘voulez vous couchez avec moi’ (no! I’m lying! Just wanted to throw in some francais!). Sorry, at the end of our chat we arranged to go on a date.

I want to say we had a very pleasant date, but the word pleasant means ‘giving a sense of happy satisfaction or enjoyment’, so let’s just say the date was not unpleasant. We spoke, drank wine, I laughed a lot, at my own jokes, he was boring. Anyway, he wanted to meet again so I agreed. He wasn’t weird or crazy and I thought that maybe I should give it another go. Maybe he was shy and there was a personality hidden somewhere. Deep. Down. In. The. Depths. Somewhere.

Date number two arrived and we met in the West End. I wanted to arrive early so I could do some shopping at Bravissimo, the big booby bra shop but as I suffer from a chronic time keeping syndrome it made that little escapade impossible.

We headed off to a restaurant and I just could not be arsed with the small talk. Straight up this dude was boring. The sound of his voice was delightful but he just wasn’t lively enough. After being tanked up with plenty of wine (once I start I can’t stop!) he asked what I planned to do for the rest of the day, so I told him that actually, I plan to go lingerie shopping. ‘Oh you go Ann Summers?’ He asks full of sexy French innocence! So I asked him if he knew what Ann Summers was. Well supposedly, he thought Ann Summers was the only lingerie shop in the world! If I want crotchless knickers then yes! But we live in England and it’s a bit cold for that.

Seeing that the conversation had gone from zero to Sex Shops, I decided to give him the best weekend of his boring life and take him lingerie shopping with me, to Bravissimo, not Ann Summers! Don’t worry, I didn’t let him come in the changing room!

He tried to call me for a couple of months, probably thought his luck was in after seeing all those big bras, but for me, apart from the accent there was nothing there, so that was that.

Or as the French say, fin.